奥普拉在斯坦福大学2008毕业典礼上的演讲

Oprah Winfrey’s Commencement Address at Stanford University<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />

15 June 2008

(Oh, oh, the books, thank you.)

‘08! Well, thank you, President Hennessy, and to the trustees and the faculty, to all of the parents and grandparents, to you, the Stanford graduates, thank you for letting me share this amazing day with you.

I need to begin by letting everyone in on a little secret. The secret is that Kirby Bumpus, Stanford class of '08, is my goddaughter. So, I was thrilled when President Hennessy asked me to be your Commencement speaker, because this is the first time I've been allowed on campus since Kirby's been here.

You see, Kirby's a very smart girl. She wants people to get to know her on her own terms, she says -- not in terms of who she knows. So, she never wants anyone who's first meeting her to know that I know her and she knows me. So, when she first came to Stanford for new student orientation with her mom, I hear that they arrived and everybody was so welcoming, and somebody came up to Kirby and they said, "Ohmygod, that's Gayle King." ‘cause a lot of people know Gayle King is my BFF.

And so somebody comes up to Kirby and they say, "Ohmygod, is that Gayle King?" And Kirby's like, "Uh-huh. She's my mom." And so the person says, "Ohmygod, does it mean, like, you know Oprah Winfrey?" And Kirby says, "Sort of." I said, "Sort of? You sort of know me?" Well, I have photographic proof. I have pictures which I can e-mail to you all of Kirby riding horsey with me on all fours. So, I more than sort-of know Kirby Bumpus.

And I'm so happy to be here; just happy that I finally, after four years, get to see her room. There's really nowhere else I'd rather be, because I'm so proud of Kirby, who graduates today with two degrees, one in human bio and the other in psychology. Love you, Kirby Cakes. That's how well I know her. I can call her "Cakes." And so proud of her mother and father, who helped her get through this time, and her brother, Will. I really had nothing to do with her graduating from Stanford, but every time anybody's asked me in the past couple of weeks what I was doing, I’d say, "I'm getting ready to go to Stanford. I just love saying "Stanford." Because the truth is, I know I would have never gotten my degree at all, 'cause I didn't go to Stanford.

I went to Tennessee State University. But I never would have gotten my diploma at all, because I was supposed to graduate back in 1975, but I was short one credit. I was short one credit, and I figured I'm going to just forget it, 'cause, you know, I'm not going to march with my class. Because by that point, I was already on television. I'd been in television since I was 19 and a sophomore. Granted, I was the only television anchorperson that had an 11 o'clock curfew doing the 10 o'clock news. Seriously, my dad was like, "Well, that news is over at 10:30. Be home by 11:00." But that didn't matter to me, because I was earning a living. I was on my way. So, I thought, I'm going to let this college thing go and I only had one credit.

But, my father, from that time on and for years after, was always on my case, because I did not graduate. He'd say, "Oprah Gail," -- that's my middle name -- "I don't know what you gonna do without that degree." And I'd say, "But, Dad, I have my own television show." And he'd say, "Well, I still don't know what you gonna do without that degree." And I'd say, "But, Dad, now I'm a talk show host." He'd say, "I don't know how you gonna get another job without that degree."

So, in 1987, Tennessee State University invited me back to speak at their Commencement. By then, I had my own show, was nationally syndicated. I'd made a movie, had been nominated for an Oscar1 and founded my company, HARPO. But I told them, I cannot come and give a speech unless I can earn one more credit, because my dad's still saying I'm not going to get anywhere without that degree. So, I finished my coursework; I turned in my final paper and I got the degree. And my dad was very proud. And I know that if anything happens that one credit will be my salvation.

But I also know why my dad was insisting on that diploma. Because, as B. B. King put it, "The beautiful thing about learnin' is that nobody can take that away from you." And learning is really in the broadest sense what I really want to talk about today, because your education, of course, isn't ending here. In many ways, it's only just begun.

The world has so many lessons to teach you. I consider the world, this Earth, to be like a school and our life the classrooms. And sometimes here in this Planet Earth school the lessons often come dressed up as detours or roadblocks, and sometimes as full-blown crises. And the secret I've learned to getting ahead is being open to the lessons; lessons from the grandest universe of all, that is, the universe itself. It's being able to walk through life eager and open to self-improvement and that which is going to best help you evolve, 'cause that's really why we're here, to evolve as human beings; so, to grow into being more of ourselves, always moving to the next level of understanding, the next level of compassion and growth.

I think the great –- One of the greatest compliments I've ever received: I interviewed with a reporter when I was first starting out in Chicago. And then, many years later, I saw the same reporter. And she said to me, "You know what? You really haven't changed. You've just become more of yourself." And that is really what we're all trying to do, become more of ourselves. And I believe that there is a lesson in almost everything that you do and every experience, and getting the lesson is how you move forward. It's how you enrich your spirit. And, trust me, I know that inner wisdom is more precious than wealth. The more you spend it, the more you gain.

So, today, I just want to share a few lessons -- meaning three -- that I've learned in my journey so far. And aren't you glad? Don't you hate it when somebody says, "I'm going to share a few," and it's 10 lessons later? And you like, "Listen, this is my graduation. This is not about you."  So, it's only going to be three. The three lessons that have had the greatest impact on my life have to do with feelings, with failure, and with finding happiness.