I have
often thought of it as one of the most barbarous customs in the world,
considering us as a civilized and a Christian country, that we deny the
advantages of learning to women. We reproach the sex every day with folly and
impertinence; while I am confident, had they the advantages of education equal
to us, they would be guilty of less than ourselves. One
would wonder, indeed, how it should happen that women are conversible at all;
since they are only beholden to natural parts, for all their knowledge. Their
youth is spent to teach them to stitch and sew or make baubles. They are taught
to read, indeed, and perhaps to write their names, or so; and that is the
height of a woman’s education. And I would but ask any who slight the sex for
their understanding, what is a man (a gentleman, I mean) good for, that is
taught no more? I need not give instances, or examine the character of a
gentleman, with a good estate, or a good family, and with tolerable parts; and
examine what figure he makes for want of education. The
soul is placed in the body like a rough diamond; and must be polished, or the
luster of it will never appear. And ’tis manifest, that as the rational soul
distinguishes us from brutes; so education carries on the distinction, and
makes some less brutish than others. This is too evident to need any
demonstration. But why then should women be denied the benefit of instruction?
If knowledge and understanding had been useless additions to the sex, GOD
Almighty would never have given them capacities; for he made nothing needless.
Besides, I would ask such, What they can see in ignorance, that they should
think it a necessary ornament to a woman? or how much worse is a wise woman
than a fool? or what has the woman done to forfeit the privilege of being
taught? Does she plague us with her pride and impertinence? Why did we not let
her learn, that she might have had more wit? Shall we upbraid women with folly,
when ’tis only the error of this inhuman custom, that hindered them from being
made wiser? The
capacities of women are supposed to be greater, and their senses quicker than
those of the men; and what they might be capable of being bred to, is plain
from some instances of female wit, which this age is not without. Which
upbraids us with Injustice, and looks as if we denied women the advantages of
education, for fear they should vie with the men in their improvements. [They]
should be taught all sorts of breeding suitable both to their genius and
quality. And in particular, Music and Dancing; which it would be cruelty to bar
the sex of, because they are their darlings. But besides this, they should be
taught languages, as particularly French and Italian: and I would venture the
injury of giving a woman more tongues than one. They should, as a particular
study, be taught all the graces of speech, and all the necessary air of
conversation; which our common education is so defective in, that I need not
expose it. They should be brought to read books, and especially history; and so
to read as to make them understand the world, and be able to know and judge of
things when they hear of them. To such
whose genius would lead them to it, I would deny no sort of learning; but the
chief thing, in general, is to cultivate the understandings of the sex, that
they may be capable of all sorts of conversation; that their parts and judgments
being improved, they may be as profitable in their conversation as they are
pleasant. Women,
in my observation, have little or no difference in them, but as they are or are
not distinguished by education. Tempers, indeed, may in some degree influence
them, but the main distinguishing part is their Breeding. The
whole sex are generally quick and sharp. I believe, I may be allowed to say,
generally so: for you rarely see them lumpish and heavy, when they are
children; as boys will often be. If a woman be well bred, and taught the proper
management of her natural wit, she proves generally very sensible and
retentive. And,
without partiality, a woman of sense and manners is the finest and most
delicate part of God's Creation, the glory of Her Maker, and the great instance
of His singular regard to man, His darling creature: to whom He gave the best
gift either God could bestow or man receive. And ’tis the sordidest piece of
folly and ingratitude in the world, to withhold from the sex the due luster
which the advantages of education gives to the natural beauty of their minds. A woman
well bred and well taught, furnished with the additional accomplishments of
knowledge and behavior, is a creature without comparison. Her society is the
emblem of sublimer enjoyments, her person is angelic, and her conversation
heavenly. She is all softness and sweetness, peace, love, wit, and delight. She
is every way suitable to the sublimest wish, and the man that has such a one to
his portion, has nothing to do but to rejoice in her, and be thankful. On the
other hand, Suppose her to be the very same woman, and rob her of the benefit
of education, and it follows— If her
temper be good, want of education makes her soft and easy. Her
wit, for want of teaching, makes her impertinent and talkative. Her
knowledge, for want of judgment and experience, makes her fanciful and
whimsical. If her
temper be bad, want of breeding makes her worse; and she grows haughty,
insolent, and loud. If she
be passionate, want of manners makes her a termagant and a scold, which is much
at one with Lunatic. If she
be proud, want of discretion (which still is breeding) makes her conceited,
fantastic, and ridiculous. And
from these she degenerates to be turbulent, clamorous, noisy, nasty, the devil!— The
great distinguishing difference, which is seen in the world between men and
women, is in their education; and this is manifested by comparing it with the
difference between one man or woman, and another. And
herein it is that I take upon me to make such a bold assertion, that all the
world are mistaken in their practice about women. For I cannot think that God
Almighty ever made them so delicate, so glorious creatures; and furnished them
with such charms, so agreeable and so delightful to mankind; with souls capable
of the same accomplishments with men: and all, to be only Stewards of our
Houses, Cooks, and Slaves. Not
that I am for exalting the female government in the least: but, in short, I
would have men take women for companions, and educate them to be fit for it. A
woman of sense and breeding will scorn as much to encroach upon the prerogative
of man, as a man of sense will scorn to oppress the weakness of the woman. But
if the women’s souls were refined and improved by teaching, that word would be
lost. To say, the weakness of the sex, as to judgment, would be nonsense; for
ignorance and folly would be no more to be found among women than men. I remember a passage, which I heard from a very fine woman. She had wit and capacity enough, an extraordinary shape and face, and a great fortune: but had been cloistered up all her time; and for fear of being stolen, had not had the liberty of being taught the common necessary knowledge of women’s affairs. And when she came to converse in the world, her natural wit made her so sensible of the want of education, that she gave this short reflection on herself: “I am ashamed to talk with my very maids,” says she, “for I don’t know when they do right or wrong. I had more need go to school, than be married.” I need not enlarge on the loss the defect of education is to the sex; nor argue the benefit of the contrary practice. ’Tis a thing will be more easily granted than remedied. This chapter is but an Essay at the thing: and I refer the Practice to those Happy Days (if ever they shall be) when men shall be wise enough to mend it. |
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